Help others… within the bounds of reason?

Supposedly, selfless help in affiliate and recommendation programs ALWAYS pays off.

Why? Because people get a good impression about you, and even if they’re not registered in your program just yet, but you still help them anyway, they will remember it, and when they look for some new program, they might come to you then.

I am sure you’ve heard these stories, right? Of course, above vision sounds great, but if you’ve been working in this business sector for longer… you know, that it is not 100% truth. And it doesn’t always work like that. I’ll say more: sometimes it goes exactly opposite way.

People tend to use to the maximum of whatever they get for free.
People don’t always appreciate those who help, explain and just simply want to be fair.
People prefer ‘Stars’ over ‘Little Mice’, who would be there to help at all times.
And those 3 sentences above are not 100% rule as well. 🙂


Maybe I’ll start from the fact, that everybody is different, we have various expectations, various emotions, and there might be hundreds of reasons why one person would choose to work with another one.

When I was only starting my journey with affiliate programs I have come across variety of sponsors. ‘Higher’ their position in rankings was, I could also call it their ‘Facebook fame’, less likely they were to help. There was no point of asking ‘silly beginner questions’, such as how to add your advert, how to create a banner, how to find this or that, etc. And at that time I said to myself, that I am not going to be like it, and if someone needed my help, even if he wasn’t in my structure, he will get the answer. In addition to that, I started to choose people ‘in the middle’ as my sponsors – because they always, not like big leaders’, had time to answer me.

And it even worked for a while… this selfless help towards others 🙂

But as it is in life, I quickly started to see things, that made me start to change my ‘idealistic’ way of thinking. And slowly, I stopped wanting to be that ‘ideal helper, who you can count on at any time’.

John loved sponsors, who were ‘the Stars’ of Facebook. He was signing up to variety of programs using their links, he loved commenting and liking their posts, all sorts of things. But his sponsors never explained him anything, so every time he had a problem, he run to send me a private message and asked what to do. How to create a banner? How to set your ad? Could I help him to start a blog? Would I mind to describe certain things to him as he doesn’t speak in English? He was not my referal in any of those programs, but he messaged me every two days. I slowly started realizing that he is just simply using me as a free help and he will never use my reflink to sing up. He did not care about me, because I wasn’t famous 😉 So I started to reply for every single of his questions: ‘Just ask your sponsor. That’s what he’s there for’. It took a months for him to realize that I am not going to play a good auntie any more. At the end he gave me an amazing offer: he will sign up to program X using my link and I will give him back the commission, because we know each other so well 😉

Right after John – I rejected to help few other people too.

And by the way, I think it’s quite fascinating that people expect that you’ll give them your time every 2 days, or every day, absolutely for free, and that you’ll be grateful for that 🙂 I wonder what they would do, if they were in my shoes. Because time, is the only thing that you will not get back. And by helping others in recommendation programs, not getting anything for it, you are just simply losing your time. You could have done hundred other things: go to the cinema with your family, watch a funny movie, take a trip somewhere, go for holiday, take kids to Disneyland. But you’ve been sat in front of the computer for 3 months, while somebody was sucking information from you for free.


Set the rules for helping.

It is good to set some rules for helping others at the beginning of you co-operation. You are a sponsor, not a slave. 🙂

– No calls after 8pm,
– No calls before 8am,
– Maximum one phone call a day/every 3 days, depending on what it is about and how the specific person works.

Martin has signed up to one of my programs, but never purchased anything and he did not even consider any marketing work. He was observing. But… he was also calling me 3 times a day to talk about some super news that he discovered, about marketing gossip, about his previous, ‘lousy’ sponsors and about how to earn within a program (although he’s never done it). I think I’ve lasted a week. I honestly have my own life and I will not spend half of my day talking on the phone about something that’s not going to bring anything into my work.

Even if it was my family calling me 3 times a day to talk for an hour each time about some local gossip (I’m sorry), but I would probably come out of myself.

After Martin, I deleted my phone number from the blog. I am learning… 😉

Set the rules for helping – continuation.

– Answering to private messages – depending on how many of them you receive – maximum twice a day (e.g. morning and evening), so people don’t expect you to reply within 15 minutes. You don’t have to have your Facebook open all the time.
Every morning, Josh used to give me a detail report of what he did so far. Midday, he used to write what questions he got, in the afternoon he was telling me what he had for dinner and in the evening he expected a conversation about marketing. 4 months. Aw, and before I forget – he did not use my reflink in any of the programs 🙂 As he used to say: ‘He was planning to do so’, but every time he seen a good topic somewhere else, he signed up and then he discussed it with me.

Yeah, because it is obvious that I have nothing else to do and I don’t have any other partners, that it’s just me and him.

And try not to reply within 2 hours – it’s outrageous.

Lesson? Of course. Now I answer to messages 2-3 times a day. And it is not every time when I am on Facebook. I have set times to do so and I stick to it. And if it does not suit you, then I am sorry.


Free promotional websites for partners.

For a long time now, I’ve been doing free sites for my partners to promote programs that we use. They are available in Polish and in English. It is really a great method to encourage people to co-operate (I recommend doing it). Many people just simply do not know how to do a website and helping them this way really comes in handy. I like doing these things and it brings me a lot of enjoyment…


Around 70% of people who registered to various programs using my link and requested a free website – never actually bought anything. They took the website, promoted a program for example on Facebook and hoped that they’ll get commission. But they did not pay in anything themselves. Why spend your own money, when you can earn on others?

So: creating a website for them requires me to pay for a domain, separate hosting + transfer, so it works fast for everyone. Domain costs money. Hosting costs money. Transfer costs money. The time that I spend on creating it costs money too (I know it may be shocking for you, hahaha) 🙂

Bob received a promotional website from me and he has put it on some American traffic exchange system. He used some sort of robots to increase its reach too. His traffic was incredible – I was surprised myself. Great effort. Additional transfer for this effort had cost me few hundred pounds extra at the end of the month, comparing to what I usually pay, hehehe. But OK, I get that these things may happen, not a problem. But Bob… did not buy anything in the program, for which he received the website.

Why does it matter?

I’ll explain now: if my partner buys something in a program, then I get the commission. So I am earning and I am able to pay for additional transfers for my partners’ websites. So a ‘free website’ from me is a website for which you pay with commission that I get from your purchases. Easy as that 🙂 As long as you pay… and that not always happen.

Lesson? Of course. For some time now, I am not offering websites for people who only register from my link. I introduced a new rule, which states that you need to purchase something in a program, before you get a website. Is that discriminating towards people who don’t buy anything? I don’t know. But I know maths: my hosting, transfer, domain, time – are not exactly free. And that’s it 🙂


Closed informative group for my partners on Facebook.

It is a great tool to be able to share updates from programs that I use. There are separate sections for each program + daily (I’ll highlight: daily) news. If something happens in a program, there are updates, changes, admin came up with new idea, something works or it doesn’t – you’ll find it there. To be able to provide you with this information I have to watch all admin’s webinars, follow Facebook groups, videos, etc. Then I have to summarize all this knowledge, write it all down, to be able to share it with my partners.

Up until some time ago, to be able to be in this group, you just had to sign up to 1 program using my reflink and you received the access to all articles and updates of ALL the programs that I use. Whether it was revenue share, trade-revshare, trading on its own, etc. One registration (didn’t matter if you bought something or not, as everybody needs to start somewhere and it is good to have all help at your reach) – and you had the access to all the info.


Kate registered to one of my programs (today this website does not exist any more) around 1 and half year ago. All this time she had the access to everything. She also entered every other program I use, but… she did not use my reflink 🙂 It didn’t change the fact that all the updates she had for free, she often copied it and passed it on as hers, without even mentioning where she got it from. She used to make screenshots of it as well and post it on various Facebook groups along with her offer for people to sign up. And I would not have ANYTHING against that, if it wasn’t for the fact… that she was not my partner in any of these programs, but she happily used the information, without even leaving a ‘thank you’ or a like.

And there was quite few of those ‘Kates’.


He acted similar to Kate, with additional plus: he was asking me to add descriptions of programs that he was using, because he did not have any information about it, as he did not speak in English. And also because ‘nobody else post updates as quickly as I do’.

Thank you for the compliment. It’s very nice to hear that… 😉

Lesson? Of course.

Over the period of last month I heartlessly deleted 50 people out of my closed Facebook group and I changed the rules of it too. Now in my informative group you are NOT GOING TO FIND updates from all the programs I use, but you’ll find marketing things, some news + weekly hang outs.

In addition, I opened new separate groups with updates from programs that I use. For example: Futureadpro/ Futurenet group, Usi-Tech group, AdsTraShare group, Rockwall group. Each of those groups were made exclusively for people who used my reflink to register in them. In addition, new people who want to look into it and take their time to think about it – are added for around 30 days. It gives them enough time to decide whether they want to do it or not.
Because of that: active people, who really want to do something will receive regular updates from programs they joined, and people who are not active in my team – can ask their sponsors for info, or they can look in the same places that I use: official program groups on Facebook, YouTube and private messages with admins.

Times of the good auntie came to an end.

Help others… within the bounds of reason?

I know it sounds bad. People shouldn’t really expect anything back when they’re helping others and they don’t have to think reasonably. You just help, because you are a good person, because you want others to have it better, to go forward and develop…


First: no pressure.
Second: there are many people around us who use your help many times and offer nothing back.
Do they have to? No, they don’t.
But you don’t have to help either.

OK, and how about you? How do you help others in recommendation programs? Idealistically, or you set the rules of co-operation in advance?

P.S. Of course, all the names mentioned in this article were changes and are random.

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